When my clients write down their visions of a dream life, they often leave themselves out. They list the material items, the places they'll go, the money they'll have, and so on, but they don't describe how they will feel when it will all comes true. If you are stressed now, will you want to be stressed in your dream future? If you feel badly about yourself, do you think it would make any difference if you had all the money in the world and wore a size 0?
If you give yourself a hard time on a regular basis, I can assure you that your dream life will take longer to create. This emotional misalignment creates drag on your forward motion. Treasuring yourself in the now will prepare you to be treasured and well-loved in the future.
To help you begin treasuring yourself, I suggest the following: write yourself a love letter. Tell yourself everything you admire and cherish about you. Make some promises about how you will treat yourself from now on. Tell yourself that it's okay not to be perfect. Use this opportunity to break through the old messages and crap that you've been beating yourself over the head with and replace them with new, more loving thoughts. By doing so, you will also be producing nurturing chemicals in your body, rather than the harsh and damaging chemicals of anxiety and stress. Do it today!
If you care to share your love letter to yourself, I'd be honored to read it.